Online Dating Sites... The Do's and Don'ts

Online Dating Sites... The Do's and Don'ts

So you are thinking about joining an online dating site...speaking from experience, I've listed some very important tips for you to follow.

1. Do Create a Catchy User ID. Be aware that this is the first thing someone will see about you, besides your picture. Your favorite flower, pastime, or hobby are some ideas. Whatever you do decide to choose for your user ID, don't use your full name. That would be giving anybody on that site too much info to start. 
2. Do Post a Profile Picture. Yes, you MUST post a profile picture. Profile pictures should be a clear and recent picture of your face, or if you're brave your whole person. Do NOT upload a picture of your pet or an object instead of a picture of you. You will not get many views or date requests if a potential mate believes that you are hiding something, or something is wrong with you because you're posting a picture of something other than you. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... there is someone out there for everyone.
3. Do Be Polite But Wary When Responding to Chat Requests. When you start receiving chat requests, check the senders profile before responding to see if they hold any interest for you. If they don't, respond politely that you are not interested or that you're already seeing someone. If they do catch your interest, say hello and respond wisely (no personal info) to any questions they may have asked, or you can ask questions of your own.
4. Do's and Don'ts of Chatting. Once you've accepted a chat request from a potential date... Do NOT, under any circumstances give them ANY personal information yet such as your full name (first is okay), your address, your personal email, or your phone number. Do get to know the person for a little while first through the dating site's chat service to further see if you have like interests, goals, and relationship values and standards.
5. Do's and Don'ts of Your First Date. The biggest problem with internet dating is that not everyone, regardless of how "sweet" they seem to be, is honest in their profile description, and even sometimes in their intentions. If chatting has gone well, and you've agreed to meet, meet them in a public location like a restaurant, cafe, museum, etc. Do NOT under any circumstances for this first date, arrange for them to come to your home or go to theirs.
6. Extra Warnings For Online Dating Sites.  Internet dating sites can be a perfect playground for scammers, theives, and predators. Keep that in mind at all times. If someone asks for personal information and you haven't personally met them yet and aren't completely sure of their intentions, DO NOT give them your personal information. If someone tells you that they are closing their account and so they need your personal information to be able to talk to you some more...DO NOT give it to them. That is the oldest trick in online dating to get your personal information. There have been thousands of lonely people who thought they'd met the perfect prospective mate and were told this by them. So they gave in and ended up either being scammed for money or even worse were victims of violent crimes. Do NOT give in to this request, for your own good. If that person who is telling you that they're quitting the site has REAL intentions for a relationship, they will continue their subscription so they can have a chance at meeting you and having a relationship with you.

I wish you all the best of luck in your search for your special someone. Please be wise and careful.

JD

15 Ways To Say “I Love You” Without Actually Saying It ...

Here are some examples to help you express your love for your partner without having to say a word.

1. Send a box of chocolates (must be the fancy, expensive kind) with a romantic poem.

2. Send her a bouquet of red roses. Nothing says it more than a dozen roses.

3. Send small, unexpected gifts to show that you care. Think about what your partner’s hobbies or interests are. The gift could be a book, a gadget or as simple as a packet of his favorite sweets.

4. Sing a few lines of your ‘special’ song into his voice-mail.

5. Brag about your partner to friends while he is nearby. It’ll will make him feel like a million dollars.

6. Buy her jewellery. For some reason, women like rare, expensive rocks and metals. The more the merrier, but more often than not, just the thought of receiving jewellery from her man is enough to make her smile all day.

7. Never, never forget her birthday, your wedding anniversary or other special days. Put it in your diary, get someone to remind you, pay if you have to. Invest in a PDA or subscribe to a free online calendar like Yahoo Calendar.

8. Send her an online greeting card. There are many wonderfully creative sites out there where you can send love cards for free. Do it today.

9. Take your partner on long walks and hold his hand. Go star-gazing.

10. Plan and cook a meal together.

11. Write a romantic love letter or love note. Some people find it easier to write down how they feel.

12. Listen to what she’s saying. Really listen. Active listening involves eye contact, repeating what the other person has said, mirroring their body movements, etc. Don’t try to give a solution to her problems, just provide a listening ear.

13. Write and sing her a love song, if you’re musically inclined.

14. Take her on a drive in a convertible and watch the sunset.

15. Take note of his best qualities and tell him how great he is. Tell the truth!


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Make a Man Fall In Love

If you want to make a man fall in love with you then you need to know what works with men. Many women make the mistake in relationships of treating a man in a similar way to how they would treat another woman. Then this causes them problems when the man doesn't respond as they would expect. Men have very different attitudes around relationships and emotions so the things that a woman would expect to work often just don't. If you want to make a man fall in love here are 5 powerful strategies to help you avoid the mistakes that most women make and ensure he falls for you:

Make Sure You Put Yourself First

Put your self respect and your own interests before your relationship with him. Many women think that in order to get that guy, they have to meet his every request. They give and give until they are drained. They think if they give their all, then he will appreciate it and love them more. Now, this might work with women but it does not work with men. If you want to make a man fall in love with you, you need to be a little selfish.

A man will value you more and respect you if you put yourself first much of the time. This doesn't mean using him or taking advantage but it does mean having your own life and doing your own thing without him. It will drive him crazy if he spends time missing you and wondering what you are up to, or if he asks you out and you tell him you can't make it because you have something else on. Even if he complains, don't give in. If you can do this, he will feel less pressured and he really will appreciate you more.

Take Your Time to Build The Chemistry

Don't be in a rush. Take your time to build the chemistry. A man will only want to stay with you if he feels good in your relationship. Make sure that the time he spends with you is fun and enjoyable. Laugh together and have some activities that you can do together which you both enjoy. Whenever possible, accentuate the feminine in the way you act, dress and do your hair. He will love it if you are joining in his favourite outdoor activity one minute and then dressed like a lady the next. After spending quality time together, pull away slightly to let him miss you. When he feels good with you and has plenty of opportunity to miss you, he will start to fall madly in love with you.

Support His Goals and Missions

Even if these take him away from you, you have to learn to let him go willingly if you want him to fall in love with you. Men are generally project oriented and need the space to follow their goals. If you sulk or pout when he needs his own space, or try to pressurise him into seeing you more, he will feel trapped. Give him the space he needs and he will start to feel safe enough to open up to a relationship with you. Deny him this and he will flee like an animal escaping the cage.

Control Your Emotions

Emotions can be scary territory for men, and unfortunately, dating can be a time when many of these can be unleashed in a woman. To make a man fall in love with you, it is essential that you let him see that you are emotionally stable at the beginning of a relationship. If you allow him to feel the full weight of your emotions before he knows you properly, you will frighten him off. When he pulls away which every new man does, stay cool, don't panic and wait for him to return. If you want to keep him, you must stay in control at all times.

Less Talk - More Space

When issues arise, tell him once, then back off and give him plenty of space. This takes some restraint, but it is so powerful and works wonders with men. Never try to convince him with words, tears, or tantrums that he should love you, or should want to have a relationship with you, or should anything else for that matter. Words do not have the same effect on men that they do with women. He will simply tune you out and carry on with his own way of doing things. If things are not quite as you would like in your relationship, pull away and wait to see if he comes after you. If you are important to him, he will return to resolve your issues.

I have given you 5 powerful strategies and, if you use them, you will have a solid foundation on how to make a man fall in love with you. Forget what you have been doing already, if it hasn't been working for you. Incorporate these actions into your life to skyrocket your dating and relationship success.

7 Ways to Make Yourself Irresistable - free article courtesy of ...

The key to being irresistable to men is more about you and less about them.

It is about accentuating every one of your strengths both internally and externally and reveling in them. So before we show you how to flirt, tease and seduce, we are going to teach you how to pamper, indulge and revel in the delicious power of being a woman.

1) Before going out to socialize or even see the one that you are currently dating, take a few minutes to visualize what you want to happen. Picture in detail exactly who you want and what you want to happen between you. What qualities will your perfect lover have?

How will he look at you? How will he touch you? Add in as much detail as possible. Knowing what you want is the first step to having it.

2) Before seeing the man you are dating or stepping foot outside the door, take care with your appearance. Look in the mirror and identify all the things that you like about yourself. If you focus on the qualities that you like about yourself, you will have far more confidence in yourself than most women out there. That will show and give you an edge.

3) Accentuate those positive qualities. For example: If you have full shiny hair make the most of it. Let it flow down your shoulders. Play with it in front of the one you desire. Men have a fascination with hair.

If you have full pouty lips, apply liner around the edges then fill in with a deep gloss that accentuates your skin tone, then apply a lighter coat just in the center of your lips. This will give them even more sex appeal.

4) Play up your eyes. A lot of flirting is done with eye play. Look at him then look away. Use your eyes to tell him everything that you are feeling, everything that you would like to do to him.

5)Wear clothes that accentuate your assets. Hint at your curves without exposing them. Remember less is more. Incite his curiosity. Make him want to see more.

6) Wear a delicate scent. Apply your perfume twenty minutes before you go out the door. A woman's scent is enticing. Overpowering perfume, on the other hand, is a major turn off.

7) Take care of your whole body, not just your face. Most women wash their face daily and moisturize but what about the rest of you? Take care of your skin. Use a good sugar scrub on your body and follow with a rich moisturizer. If your body feels silky smooth, you will feel and act sexier. Plus the man of your dreams won't be able to resist caressing your smooth, silky soft skin.

Dating: You'll Attract the Right Man When You Believe You Can ...

What do you believe about relationships?

Your beliefs are important because they determine the relationship (or lack of relationship) you end up with.

For example, if you believe that all men cheat, you'll attract cheaters. If you believe that men resist commitment, you'll probably end up with a guy who's in no hurry to sit for an engagement photo.

If you believe you don't have what it takes to meet a guy who'll love you for the rest of your life, guess what? You're right.

Change your beliefs, and you'll change the type of men --and relationships -- you attract.

If you find yourself dating the same type of guy over and over, it is definitely going to mess with your belief system (and it's probably a result of your belief system!). You probably don't think that a guy who'll make you happy really exists. I'll bet you find yourself working too hard every time you start a relationship, or go on a date, or even to a party.

Stop.

I want you to sit down and ask yourself what you want out of your next relationship. Decide what you want in a man, instead of obsessing over how to get a man, how to please a man, and how to dress for a man.

After you determine what you want, jot it down. Then write an affirmation around it.

Here's the one that worked for me:

"I am happily married to a loyal, loving, reliable, successful, fun man."

(Because I formerly attracted guys who cheated, went hot and cold on me, didn't call or show up when they said they would, and weren't particularly fun.)

I'd really feel it, too. I brought all my senses into what it would be like to be married to a loyal, loving, reliable, successful, fun man.

What would it look like?

Feel like?

Smell like?

Taste like?

Sound like?

When I wasn't writing my affirmation, I went about my life as usual. I went to work. I hung out on Friday and Saturday nights with my friends. All the while, I kept writing (and feeling) my affirmations every day.

Then, the man I married walked into my life. The beautiful thing is, we're actually happily married. Too many couples aren't.

Would you like to be happily married someday?

You can have what you want if you know what you want, and if you believe it's possible.

Affirmations will make it possible.

Decide what you want. Think up an affirmation and write it 15-20 times every single day. Before you know it, you'll be dating better men, perhaps the one who'll bring you joy for the rest of your life.
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Online Dating: 13 Tips To Write A Winning Online Profile And ...

How long do you spend getting ready for a night out? At a guess I would say that if you’re a woman you can probably spend 1 hour upwards preening and titivating and if you’re a man you can be showered, shaved and out of the door within 20 minutes (unless, of course, you’re a metro-sexual in which case you probably take longer than a woman!).

Now let me ask you how long you would spend (or have spent) writing a profile for an online dating site? Less than 5 minutes, possibly 10 minutes maximum?

When you consider that you literally have minutes to impress someone and stand out from the rest in the online dating scene, don’t you agree that more time and effort should be put into writing an online profile?

If you are an online dater, I’m sure you will agree with me that when you are searching for a partner online you will first of all look at the profiles with photos and, secondly, you will look at the profiles where people have taken the time to write something about themselves. So if you have no photo and/or an incomplete and uninformative profile, don’t be surprised if you inbox isn’t full to the brim with messages!

I’m going to share a few tips with you to get you started writing an eye-catching profile. Once you’ve read them take some time to think about what you are going to write and jot down some quick notes before hitting the keyboard.

1. Grab a friend

If you don’t like writing about yourself or think you are going to get writer’s block it’s a good idea to enlist the help of a friend; the kind of friend who is always saying to you “I can’t understand why you’re still single, you’re such a catch”. Ask your friend what your star qualities are and he or she will come up with a million and one positive things about you which you would have never thought of or dared to say about yourself.

2. Strike a pose

The most effective way to get noticed online, is to include a photo. Choose a clear photo that shows in your best light and preferably smiling - it makes much better viewing!

3. Choose a fun username

This is the name which you will be known as by members on the dating site. I would advise you to use a name other than your real name to remain anonymous. Try and choose a name that is fun and reflects your personality, i.e. Sporty Sam or Disco Queen. Do not use a name which is sexually provocative or offensive.

4. Captivate your audience

Make your profile really stand out so that any person reading it will think “Wow, I have to get to know this person!”

Online dating sites have made it easy for you when completing your profile by providing drop down menus for basic questions such as your appearance, lifestyle, hobbies but you will also be given additional space to write something yourself. Use this space wisely to provide a more detailed description about your personality, your interests and what you are looking for. The key is to be confident and talk positively about yourself without coming across bigheaded.

5. Don’t leave an empty space

If you feel you have covered everything by answering the profile questions – please do not leave the additional space blank or write “ask me”, “tell you later” or “I don’t know what to say”. Members will see your profile and think you’re either not serious about dating or that if you can’t be bothered to put some effort into writing a profile you will have the same approach in a relationship – effortless! Instead extend on the information already provided, for example, if you have stated you like travelling talk about some of the places you have visited.

6. Ask questions

If there is a particular place you visited and fell in love with, ask anyone who has been there to get in touch with you so you can reminisce together. Asking a question in your profile makes it easy for other members to respond to.

7. Be Honest

Don’t lie about interests; you will get found out! For example, don’t say you love long walks in the countryside if you really like to dance the night away in nightclubs every weekend. You’ll attract the wrong person and waste both of your time.

As with any other kind of dating, it is always best to be honest from the start so answer all questions honestly and finding your perfect match will be much easier!

8. Show your funny side

I think if you can make someone laugh or someone makes you laugh, you’re on the path to a good relationship. Show people that you have a sense of humour, e.g. talk about a scene from one of your all time favourite comedies and you may strike a chord with someone else who found the same thing just as funny as you.

9. Dream a little

Write about your dreams and ambitions. If your dream is to travel the world but you haven’t quite got round to it there may be someone out there who would like to share this experience with you. If you’ve been lucky enough to fulfil your dreams, share your story with other members.

10. Don’t mention the ex!

Ok, so you may have just come out of a relationship and be feeling sad and lonely but don’t write about it. It will put a lot of people off and you may come across desperate, which is not an attractive trait. Make online dating a new start for you and promise yourself not to dwell on past relationships.

11. Your expectations

What are your expectations from joining an online dating site? Tell people the kind of relationship you are hoping to find but don’t say you are looking for marriage if you are really looking for a casual fling and vice versa. Again, you will waste both of your time.

12. Write a chapter, not a book

By this I mean, don’t tell your whole life story in your profile. I encourage you to provide as much information as possible about yourself but use short bursts of information, sectioned by paragraphs, rather than writing a long essay so whoever is reading it is intrigued to find out more about you.

13. Be safe

Finally, do not include any personal information in your profile, e.g. your e-mail address, home address, work address or telephone number. A reputable dating site will remove any personal information before it appears live on site; this is to ensure that they provide you with a safe online dating environment.

Once you’ve completed your profile, read through it or ask a trusted friend to read through it and ask, would you reply to this person? If yes, it’s all systems go. If no, look at the areas where it can be improved until you’ve created that winning profile. It may take longer than 5 or 10 minutes but the results that will show in your inbox will be worth it!
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Conjure up Romance: Basic Steps in Love Spell Casting - free ...

The casting of a love spell is a powerful thing. The combination of words and action can lead to magic and change your life forever. Spell casting has been used for centuries by love struck individuals wanting to take charge of their destiny and alter the course of their lives. The power of a love spell is not to be taken lightly. Before attempting to cast a spell on the one you love, learn the basics of spell casting.

The first step in spell casting is to think about what it is that you would like to see happen. It is crucial that you be very clear about what changes you would like to create. It is reckless behavior to cast a spell on an innocent person for the wrong reasons, and your harmful actions can in turn bring about bad karma. To avoid this, examine your reasons for wanting to cast a spell and know exactly what outcome it is you are looking for.

The second stage in spell casting involves eliminating what it is that is blocking you from your love. Perhaps the one you love has been hurt before and is wary of falling in love again? Or perhaps the person you have always adored is simply blind to your affection and needs to be given the chance to see you in a different light. The elimination stage allows you to proceed with your spell casting, but be aware that it is not always easy to move past this stage. In order to discover your barriers, you can use one of two techniques: meditation or pendulum work. Both techniques involve quieting your mind and accessing a means of communication with your inner self. To achieve either of these states, practice a simple meditation technique by sitting calmly with your legs crossed and concentrate on one small part of your body. As you concentrate on the tip of your nose, for instance, your mind will drift away from the immediate and conscious world and will move beyond, to your subconscious mind. Whether you meditate quietly in this fashion or use a pendulum to will yourself into a state of near hypnosis, your aim is to delve into your subconscious to find the true cause of what is preventing you from being with your great love.

Before deciding on which basic love spell to use in your quest for love, go through the necessary cleansing process. This involves finding a room that can symbolically serve as your special place, and with only candlelight to guide you, rinse your hands clean of any potential negative energy and residue. To prepare a cleansing mixture, simply mix warm water with salt.

As you learn more about how to cast a powerful love spell, know that there are many spells that may be the perfect way to change your life. As mentioned, do not attempt to cast a spell without first taking these few measures. Also know that a spell is given its strength through the sheer power of your mind. You must believe in the spell you are casting and you must concentrate in order to successfully find love. Good luck and may you find true and everlasting love!
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