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Saturday, August 24, 2013
Make a Man Fall In Love
If you want to make a man fall in love with you then you need to know what works with men. Many women make the mistake in relationships of treating a man in a similar way to how they would treat another woman. Then this causes them problems when the man doesn't respond as they would expect. Men have very different attitudes around relationships and emotions so the things that a woman would expect to work often just don't. If you want to make a man fall in love here are 5 powerful strategies to help you avoid the mistakes that most women make and ensure he falls for you:
Make Sure You Put Yourself First
Put your self respect and your own interests before your relationship with him. Many women think that in order to get that guy, they have to meet his every request. They give and give until they are drained. They think if they give their all, then he will appreciate it and love them more. Now, this might work with women but it does not work with men. If you want to make a man fall in love with you, you need to be a little selfish.
A man will value you more and respect you if you put yourself first much of the time. This doesn't mean using him or taking advantage but it does mean having your own life and doing your own thing without him. It will drive him crazy if he spends time missing you and wondering what you are up to, or if he asks you out and you tell him you can't make it because you have something else on. Even if he complains, don't give in. If you can do this, he will feel less pressured and he really will appreciate you more.
Take Your Time to Build The Chemistry
Don't be in a rush. Take your time to build the chemistry. A man will only want to stay with you if he feels good in your relationship. Make sure that the time he spends with you is fun and enjoyable. Laugh together and have some activities that you can do together which you both enjoy. Whenever possible, accentuate the feminine in the way you act, dress and do your hair. He will love it if you are joining in his favourite outdoor activity one minute and then dressed like a lady the next. After spending quality time together, pull away slightly to let him miss you. When he feels good with you and has plenty of opportunity to miss you, he will start to fall madly in love with you.
Support His Goals and Missions
Even if these take him away from you, you have to learn to let him go willingly if you want him to fall in love with you. Men are generally project oriented and need the space to follow their goals. If you sulk or pout when he needs his own space, or try to pressurise him into seeing you more, he will feel trapped. Give him the space he needs and he will start to feel safe enough to open up to a relationship with you. Deny him this and he will flee like an animal escaping the cage.
Control Your Emotions
Emotions can be scary territory for men, and unfortunately, dating can be a time when many of these can be unleashed in a woman. To make a man fall in love with you, it is essential that you let him see that you are emotionally stable at the beginning of a relationship. If you allow him to feel the full weight of your emotions before he knows you properly, you will frighten him off. When he pulls away which every new man does, stay cool, don't panic and wait for him to return. If you want to keep him, you must stay in control at all times.
Less Talk - More Space
When issues arise, tell him once, then back off and give him plenty of space. This takes some restraint, but it is so powerful and works wonders with men. Never try to convince him with words, tears, or tantrums that he should love you, or should want to have a relationship with you, or should anything else for that matter. Words do not have the same effect on men that they do with women. He will simply tune you out and carry on with his own way of doing things. If things are not quite as you would like in your relationship, pull away and wait to see if he comes after you. If you are important to him, he will return to resolve your issues.
I have given you 5 powerful strategies and, if you use them, you will have a solid foundation on how to make a man fall in love with you. Forget what you have been doing already, if it hasn't been working for you. Incorporate these actions into your life to skyrocket your dating and relationship success.
Tuesday, January 15, 2013
7 Ways to Make Yourself Irresistable - free article courtesy of ...
The key to being irresistable to men is more about you and less about them.
It is about accentuating every one of your strengths both internally and externally and reveling in them. So before we show you how to flirt, tease and seduce, we are going to teach you how to pamper, indulge and revel in the delicious power of being a woman.
1) Before going out to socialize or even see the one that you are currently dating, take a few minutes to visualize what you want to happen. Picture in detail exactly who you want and what you want to happen between you. What qualities will your perfect lover have?
How will he look at you? How will he touch you? Add in as much detail as possible. Knowing what you want is the first step to having it.
2) Before seeing the man you are dating or stepping foot outside the door, take care with your appearance. Look in the mirror and identify all the things that you like about yourself. If you focus on the qualities that you like about yourself, you will have far more confidence in yourself than most women out there. That will show and give you an edge.
3) Accentuate those positive qualities. For example: If you have full shiny hair make the most of it. Let it flow down your shoulders. Play with it in front of the one you desire. Men have a fascination with hair.
If you have full pouty lips, apply liner around the edges then fill in with a deep gloss that accentuates your skin tone, then apply a lighter coat just in the center of your lips. This will give them even more sex appeal.
4) Play up your eyes. A lot of flirting is done with eye play. Look at him then look away. Use your eyes to tell him everything that you are feeling, everything that you would like to do to him.
5)Wear clothes that accentuate your assets. Hint at your curves without exposing them. Remember less is more. Incite his curiosity. Make him want to see more.
6) Wear a delicate scent. Apply your perfume twenty minutes before you go out the door. A woman's scent is enticing. Overpowering perfume, on the other hand, is a major turn off.
7) Take care of your whole body, not just your face. Most women wash their face daily and moisturize but what about the rest of you? Take care of your skin. Use a good sugar scrub on your body and follow with a rich moisturizer. If your body feels silky smooth, you will feel and act sexier. Plus the man of your dreams won't be able to resist caressing your smooth, silky soft skin.
Thursday, January 10, 2013
Dating: You'll Attract the Right Man When You Believe You Can ...
What do you believe about relationships?
Your beliefs are important because they determine the relationship (or lack of relationship) you end up with.
For example, if you believe that all men cheat, you'll attract cheaters. If you believe that men resist commitment, you'll probably end up with a guy who's in no hurry to sit for an engagement photo.
If you believe you don't have what it takes to meet a guy who'll love you for the rest of your life, guess what? You're right.
Change your beliefs, and you'll change the type of men --and relationships -- you attract.
If you find yourself dating the same type of guy over and over, it is definitely going to mess with your belief system (and it's probably a result of your belief system!). You probably don't think that a guy who'll make you happy really exists. I'll bet you find yourself working too hard every time you start a relationship, or go on a date, or even to a party.
Stop.
I want you to sit down and ask yourself what you want out of your next relationship. Decide what you want in a man, instead of obsessing over how to get a man, how to please a man, and how to dress for a man.
After you determine what you want, jot it down. Then write an affirmation around it.
Here's the one that worked for me:
"I am happily married to a loyal, loving, reliable, successful, fun man."
(Because I formerly attracted guys who cheated, went hot and cold on me, didn't call or show up when they said they would, and weren't particularly fun.)
I'd really feel it, too. I brought all my senses into what it would be like to be married to a loyal, loving, reliable, successful, fun man.
What would it look like?
Feel like?
Smell like?
Taste like?
Sound like?
When I wasn't writing my affirmation, I went about my life as usual. I went to work. I hung out on Friday and Saturday nights with my friends. All the while, I kept writing (and feeling) my affirmations every day.
Then, the man I married walked into my life. The beautiful thing is, we're actually happily married. Too many couples aren't.
Would you like to be happily married someday?
You can have what you want if you know what you want, and if you believe it's possible.
Affirmations will make it possible.
Decide what you want. Think up an affirmation and write it 15-20 times every single day. Before you know it, you'll be dating better men, perhaps the one who'll bring you joy for the rest of your life.
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Friday, January 4, 2013
Online Dating: 13 Tips To Write A Winning Online Profile And ...
How long do you spend getting ready for a night out? At a guess I would say that if you’re a woman you can probably spend 1 hour upwards preening and titivating and if you’re a man you can be showered, shaved and out of the door within 20 minutes (unless, of course, you’re a metro-sexual in which case you probably take longer than a woman!).
Now let me ask you how long you would spend (or have spent) writing a profile for an online dating site? Less than 5 minutes, possibly 10 minutes maximum?
When you consider that you literally have minutes to impress someone and stand out from the rest in the online dating scene, don’t you agree that more time and effort should be put into writing an online profile?
If you are an online dater, I’m sure you will agree with me that when you are searching for a partner online you will first of all look at the profiles with photos and, secondly, you will look at the profiles where people have taken the time to write something about themselves. So if you have no photo and/or an incomplete and uninformative profile, don’t be surprised if you inbox isn’t full to the brim with messages!
I’m going to share a few tips with you to get you started writing an eye-catching profile. Once you’ve read them take some time to think about what you are going to write and jot down some quick notes before hitting the keyboard.
1. Grab a friend
If you don’t like writing about yourself or think you are going to get writer’s block it’s a good idea to enlist the help of a friend; the kind of friend who is always saying to you “I can’t understand why you’re still single, you’re such a catch”. Ask your friend what your star qualities are and he or she will come up with a million and one positive things about you which you would have never thought of or dared to say about yourself.
2. Strike a pose
The most effective way to get noticed online, is to include a photo. Choose a clear photo that shows in your best light and preferably smiling - it makes much better viewing!
3. Choose a fun username
This is the name which you will be known as by members on the dating site. I would advise you to use a name other than your real name to remain anonymous. Try and choose a name that is fun and reflects your personality, i.e. Sporty Sam or Disco Queen. Do not use a name which is sexually provocative or offensive.
4. Captivate your audience
Make your profile really stand out so that any person reading it will think “Wow, I have to get to know this person!”
Online dating sites have made it easy for you when completing your profile by providing drop down menus for basic questions such as your appearance, lifestyle, hobbies but you will also be given additional space to write something yourself. Use this space wisely to provide a more detailed description about your personality, your interests and what you are looking for. The key is to be confident and talk positively about yourself without coming across bigheaded.
5. Don’t leave an empty space
If you feel you have covered everything by answering the profile questions – please do not leave the additional space blank or write “ask me”, “tell you later” or “I don’t know what to say”. Members will see your profile and think you’re either not serious about dating or that if you can’t be bothered to put some effort into writing a profile you will have the same approach in a relationship – effortless! Instead extend on the information already provided, for example, if you have stated you like travelling talk about some of the places you have visited.
6. Ask questions
If there is a particular place you visited and fell in love with, ask anyone who has been there to get in touch with you so you can reminisce together. Asking a question in your profile makes it easy for other members to respond to.
7. Be Honest
Don’t lie about interests; you will get found out! For example, don’t say you love long walks in the countryside if you really like to dance the night away in nightclubs every weekend. You’ll attract the wrong person and waste both of your time.
As with any other kind of dating, it is always best to be honest from the start so answer all questions honestly and finding your perfect match will be much easier!
8. Show your funny side
I think if you can make someone laugh or someone makes you laugh, you’re on the path to a good relationship. Show people that you have a sense of humour, e.g. talk about a scene from one of your all time favourite comedies and you may strike a chord with someone else who found the same thing just as funny as you.
9. Dream a little
Write about your dreams and ambitions. If your dream is to travel the world but you haven’t quite got round to it there may be someone out there who would like to share this experience with you. If you’ve been lucky enough to fulfil your dreams, share your story with other members.
10. Don’t mention the ex!
Ok, so you may have just come out of a relationship and be feeling sad and lonely but don’t write about it. It will put a lot of people off and you may come across desperate, which is not an attractive trait. Make online dating a new start for you and promise yourself not to dwell on past relationships.
11. Your expectations
What are your expectations from joining an online dating site? Tell people the kind of relationship you are hoping to find but don’t say you are looking for marriage if you are really looking for a casual fling and vice versa. Again, you will waste both of your time.
12. Write a chapter, not a book
By this I mean, don’t tell your whole life story in your profile. I encourage you to provide as much information as possible about yourself but use short bursts of information, sectioned by paragraphs, rather than writing a long essay so whoever is reading it is intrigued to find out more about you.
13. Be safe
Finally, do not include any personal information in your profile, e.g. your e-mail address, home address, work address or telephone number. A reputable dating site will remove any personal information before it appears live on site; this is to ensure that they provide you with a safe online dating environment.
Once you’ve completed your profile, read through it or ask a trusted friend to read through it and ask, would you reply to this person? If yes, it’s all systems go. If no, look at the areas where it can be improved until you’ve created that winning profile. It may take longer than 5 or 10 minutes but the results that will show in your inbox will be worth it!
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